What are you looking at? What am I looking at?


I know you never come here to read about my life, but all I can say is that I’m a lucky guy.  Very few are fortunate to have multiple “sets” of friends.  I moved to Tennessee from Texas 22 years ago this June.  Somehow, I’ve been able to keep some very strong relationships with the Red Oak High School Class of 1993.  My Tennessee circle and Texas circle collided last week, as four life long buddies came to the Volunteer State to duck hunt.  I’m a blessed man.

But I digress….

How are those resolutions coming? I blew mine on January 2nd, thanks to that stupid social media site Facebook.  I was going to be “less combative” in all phases of my life.

Facebook- 1

Resolution- 0

As my good buddy Bart Belew says, “Facebook is the middle class version of Topix.”

It sucked me right in….again

But I digress…..

If given one wish to be granted in all the world, and I couldn’t use the standard ones like world peace, end illness, and eliminate hunger, I’d have a pretty good one.

I would wish that everyone in the entire world would be self aware. 

More than likely,  you’ve reached this page through a Facebook link.  We all pretty much have a page.  With those pages, come the obnoxious, constant stream of game requests.

Whether we like it or not, having a Facebook page opens us up to the world.  It doesn’t matter if you don’t post at all, or too much like I do.  The simple fact that we engage in social media, such as Facebook, opens our lives up to the scrutiny of our peers.

It also opens us up to game requests.

There was a spike in Facebook gaming as my phone was dinging with requests for Candy Crush, Candy Crush Saga, Farmville, and Trivia Crack over the holidays.

By the way, I rock at Trivia Crack. Outside of two of my “rivals”, I’m pretty much crushing everyone.

With this spike in gaming, and the subsequent requests, so too came the obligatory posts of “Quit sending me game requests” and “I don’t play these stupid Facebook games” and the ever popular “I’ll defriend the next person who sends me a game request!!!!”

But the funny thing is, these are the same people who talk about how crappy their life is, how their ex is treating them, how their kids disrespect them, and enlighten us on the color and texture of their last bowel movement.

Really???  You’re upset at a simple game request that you can discreetly ignore, yet expose us to your issue of the day?

It’s like my friend, we’ll call him “Jim.”  Jim thinks he’s clever.  He throws out the most asinine comments about a variety of issues.  When he gets punked, and the receives the wrath Facebook, Jim tells us to scroll on by if it offends us because it’s his page.  Jim wants to make a statement that will illicit a response, then gets upset when people destroy is shallow thought process.

Jim is also the guy that is your best buddy one minute, and his mortal enemy the next because he is trying to impress a different audience.

Jim lacks self-awareness.

In order to help spread my mission of a world full of self aware individuals, here are a few of my suggestions that I struggle/don’t apply to my life.  These will be in the book that my wife says I need to pen, “How to Live Life the Right Way, the John Hatler Way.”  If you need to insert sarcasm like my sweet wife does when you say that, feel free to:

  1. If someone stinks, don’t say anything because it might be you.
  2. Smile.  As the old saying goes, you’re never fully dressed without one.
  3. Never be afraid to fall on your face, at least you will be falling forward.
  4. If you’re surrounded by jerks/racists/miserable people every where you go, you’re probably the jerk/racist or making them miserable.
  5. It’s only a secret between two people when one of them is dead.
  6. Measure your words, you never know who is one aisle over.
  7. If you don’t want confrontation, keep you mouth shut.
  8. Tolerance is an attribute, being tolerant is work.
  9. If you get mad about social issues and the game requests on Facebook, you’re probably the one who posts too much on Facebook.
  10. It’s a real talent to be able to “tell it like it is”, it’s a bigger trait to accept being told how it is.

Now I’m not going to claim that I came up with all of those,  but I will for #9.

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